this is why you don't want to date in medical school

Dating.

Romantic relationships.

They also flourish in medical school apart from the normal busy routine.

Almost every year we get entertained by scandals of failed relationships and sometimes things can get muddy very quickly.

We have had cases of couples fighting only to become campus celebrities later.

Some romantic guy ever made campus headlines with a an apology cake to his girlfriend!

And many more!

But I think med school is not a place to date and sorry if this escalates to become a very personal issue.

The points I am going to discuss in this article may be my own personal experiences, however some have been borrowed from similar stories from my friends and it kinda made me conclude that maybe dating and med school cannot effectively go together.

So let me make my case!!!

How things get from bitter to sweet, I mean vice versa!

It is always love dopie as dating relationships start in med school.

The fake promises, the lucid dreams of a beautiful life. A married life when you will be a doctor married to a pharmacist or a physiotherapist!

An examplary couple.

So statuses get filled with your impressions of how your love affair is the happiest thing that ever happened in your life.

And then everything begins to change.

You start feeling like your lovely better half is getting distant from your life as the pressure of med school gets tighter.

And I believe this is where I come in with my verdict that maybe dating in med school is a bad idea and you don’t really need to bother trying.

1. The time factor

KUHES is famed for its tight schedules from premed to the final year.

This includes the dozens of handouts that we are all expected to study before we add more handouts the coming week.

Adding a dating relationships to all this burden feels like a bad idea in some respects including the fact that a relationship also demands a lot of commitments and attention is one reason I have seen many campus affairs come to an end!!!

So to avoid having to compromise on your studies for the sake of a relationship that can break at any point feels like something you don’t want to do.

2. Academic stress

Imagine having to fight on multiple fronts. One of the reasons that Germany lost the second world war is because they were fighting the allied powers on several fronts.

The same can be compared to your academic life. Your relationship affairs can at times get messed up to the extent of giving you a serious depression.

As if that was not enough, school comes with it’s own resolutions as well and you are forced to make ends with two masters who are all eating at your emotional health.

So I believe dating in the early years of your school life is such a big gamble you don’t want to make.

Tearful confessions from the trenches

I have a dirty history of failed relationships myself and I happened to fall to one such traps in medical school.

I was young and oblivious about what love really was but I knew and still confirm even now that I was emotionally invested in our relationship.

I saw something I had believed would last forever go away in front of my eyes.

I teared up as I saw a girl I thought I loved and would never leave, kiss me goodbye forever💔

That’s when I came face to face with reality that relationships do not always last and that all the fake realities that I had formulated for my future with this “SOULMATE” would never come to pass.

I soon found myself failing to move on and weeks felt like days. I failed to study as book characters appeared bluey before my eyes. I panicked in disbelief as my heart rate tripled at the thought of her.

Fortunately I came back to my senses and realized I was losing myself to something that was never meant to be.

I passed my end of year examinations as if nothing had affected me…

However I know several friends of mine who passed through something similar and now they either repeated a class or were withdrawn.

However…

It is necessary that I clarify that it is possible to find your soulmate in the first year of med school.

It’s just that sometimes the risk to your academic life is too big.

And it would be awkward for me to direct this message at fellows in the fourth or fifth years of med school…

Well

They are almost done and we definitely expect them to be dating because they are now eyeing life in the world where, marriage will be one of the main parts of their they will always have to remember.

To my fellows reading this and to you my juniors, you can consider debating on whether you are ready to date for marriage or whether you are just doing it for fun…

But if it’s just for fun,,

Maybe you should try to find fun in other things because it’s inhumane to play with someone’s heart!!!